If something is bothering you about his or her behavior, you can change your focus rather than get upset.   Doing this requires commitment and inner discipline.
– John-Roger  (From: Relationships: Love, Marriage and Spirit, p. 16)
There are spiritual laws to assist us. If the very idea of laws bothers you, you’ll be relieved to know that as you work with these spiritual laws, you’ll discover that they give you a higher perspective, and so they actually help you relax and enjoy life more. In that sense, spiritual laws function like traffic regulations. Without traffic laws, driving would be a free-for-all of traffic jams and dangerous accidents. Just as traffic regulations help keep the cars and trucks moving safely and smoothly, spiritual laws provide guidance to keep our lives flowing smoothly and in the right direction. Discovering the Soul is a continual process of leaving behind old, familiar patterns and venturing into the new. This can be difficult at times. When we are fearful or resistant, we contract, shutting the door to the true self. But if we can adjust our attitude and treat the journey to the Soul as an adventure, we will be rewarded with personal growth and more enjoyment. The key is a childlike outlook.
Childlike is not childish. A childish view is spoiled, immature, and personality-driven. Childlike, on the other hand, relates to qualities we associate with the heart: being open and honest, living in the present moment, trusting our intuition. As adults we can learn a lot from this approach. The child is not concerned with protecting his image and can, therefore, be a true learner, open and receptive to whatever comes his way. If we drop our concern with appearances and take each moment as it comes, instead of rehashing the past and worrying about the future, we, too, can greet life in the same innocent and trusting way. This approach can be challenging for people in a society like ours, which overemphasizes the intellect. Intellectuals often have difficulty letting go of their ideas about how life should be. Their minds constantly take them out of the moment and into efforts to analyze and manipulate the world around them.
John-Roger  (From: What’s It Like Being You? p97)
If something is bothering you
