As we form an attitude of unloving towards anything or anyone, we areactually always forming that attitude towards ourselves.
One of the ways unloving can be recognized in our consciousness is that a hardness or harshness comes into our being. As hardness comes into our being, then we become calloused and insensitive. As we become more insensitive, then our perceptions portray a harsh and painful world in which we find ourselves.
It then becomes easier to adopt an attitude towards the world resulting in our experiencing more harshness, negativity, and pain.   We are then less capable of being loving, which is what we’re here for.
Make it simple on yourself. Be the loving.
– John Morton ( As we form an attitude of unloving )
By the way, excerpt from the book LE POUVOIR INTERIEUR (John-Roger) Page 19
If you don’t have the opportunity to be physically present with someone in order to clarify a situation, there are other ways of eliminating the imbalance within you. If you were the creator of the imbalance, one way is simply to forgive yourself for the mistake. Send the other person your love and the energy of your Light consciousness, then send that same love and Light to yourself, and forgive yourself for the action. If you truly believe that the situation was created by the other person, forgive that person, and let go of the pain, anger or whatever it is you’re holding onto. Let it go out of your consciousness. Don’t hold on to it; let it go.
Another way to help release the situation is to use creative imagination to change your perception of what’s happening. If it ended with bitter words and hurt feelings, transform it in your imagination with words of love and mutual respect. Feel happy and full of love for the other person.
I’m not saying this is easy. Part of the hurt is inside you, because the lower self holds it in and continually
and continually recreates this image. If you can really change the image in question, the lower self will accept the new image and feel at ease. It will release the wound, the pain, and you’ll probably forget everything about this incident.
